Posts tagged marriage
Behind closed doors

We have been introducing our newly five-year-old daughter to the bike, and, to put it mildly, it has been trying.  Never mind that the training wheels are still on the the bike, the terrain is smooth and flat, and the distance we are covering is short--we may as well be asking our child to bike Mount Everest.  Over the past few weeks, we have seen so many tears and screams. 

I know all of the advice: keep the bike rides short and fun.  Do not get into a battle of wills.  Be patient; every kid is different.  Easier said than done.

We live in a very bike-unfriendly area.  Our neighborhood is practically a mini mountain, and we have no sidewalks, which means our rides are limited to our driveway, or we must venture out to parks and empty parking lots for practice.  That means that all of our bike rides are public, and I am keenly aware of how many eyes are scrutinizing our parenting decisions.

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Lazy friendship marriage

Lazy friendship marriage--it's so easy to slip into.  You're extra tired after an especially hard few weeks at work, and you turn out the lights with a quick peck on the lips.  Your dinner conversation becomes all about calendars and kids' schedules and home maintenance.  When you do have a few free moments together, you sink in front of the TV or schedule one of the appointments you have been putting off because it is so hard for you both to find the time.

You're a great team, fantastic roommates, awesome business partners.

But a marriage?  Where did you, the husband and wife, go?

I could talk about all sorts of ways that our daughter's sudden arrival made our marriage stronger, but the quick and easy response is that we started going on dates again.  We put the babysitter on the calendar, and we prioritized our marriage.

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Some news...and adoption and foster care FAQs

For the past few months, Dan and I have been delving deep into the adoption process.  From early on in our marriage, we have talked about adoption, and as we learn increasingly more about it, we feel even more so called.  We have kept the news pretty quiet, but many friends and family have expressed their support and curiosity about how everything works, so I decided to begin posting about it on the blog--both for myself, to help remember and document the process, and for others who are interested.  

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Can you overuse "thank you?"

Dan and I have an unspoken rule that we thank whoever cooks dinner each night.  No matter what the cook prepares, whether it is creating a four course anniversary meal from scratch or reheating leftovers in the microwave, the other says "thank you" at the end of dinner.  It seems, after all, only like good sense.  One person worked hard(ish) on meal preparation.  One person benefited from not having to do the work.  But one Thursday night when we both were scrapping off leftover pasta scraps from our latest leftover meal, I found myself asking, "Do we say thank you too much?"

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How to get your man to eat more plants

We eat plants and only plants in our household. I am vegan; my husband Dan is not. He grew up on pretty traditional meat-and-potatoes fare (For that matter, so did I, but I always got excited about asparagus and the nights when we would have huge fruit salads for dinner, so my tastebuds may not be the most representative.) That means that the meals we make need to please both of us. I want healthy, fresh, well-balanced, and hopefully, if we're lucky, pretty, and Dan wants something that satisfies him with lots of flavor. No plates of lettuce and raw vegetables grace our dinner table (Although for lunch, when I am left to my own devices...). 

Since I went vegan over three years ago, I have learned a thing or two about turning picky eaters onto plant foods.  Here are my top tips:

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