19 for 2019
18 for 2018: How it went
Here we go!
I’ll admit: I almost didn’t publish this list because much of it’s personal (although not necessarily private) and I also am having a hard time finding my mojo since I’m about to leave for a month of training. In the training environment, my time will not be my own, so my list will essentially be on hold for the first five weeks of the year. Not the best way to start off a resolutions list for 2019, huh?
When the struggle is too real
I put together an “18 for 2018” list at the beginning of the year and did not do a great job of reviewing my progress. I sat down this week to see how I did and was pleasantly surprised!
I’m making a “19 for 2019” list now and am coming up a few items short. I have not yet decided if I’ll push myself to get to 19 or leave it as is. The symmetry of 19 things for 2019 appeals to me, but I am practical enough to avoid adding things I am not invested in to my list.
What I learned in October
My husband Dan and I love to watch Shark Tank. If you haven’t seen the show, the premise is that entrepreneurs pitch their businesses and ask for investments from the five successful celebrity “sharks.” Every show glorifies hard work, the hustle, and the American dream: that if you sacrifice enough and put in enough hours, you can achieve anything.
It’s a wonderful notion. But is it true for everyone?
How I consume the news
Taking a page from Emily P. Freeman and writing about what I learned this month.
1. I will probably spend the next year or two sick. I used to think I had a great immune system, and then I had two kids. It turns out, my immune system is nothing spectacular; I just had not been exposed to the germs that pervade children’s spaces on a regular basis. I spent the first half of 2018 sick and frustrated, and never had I been more grateful for summer. When I caught two colds from my one-year-old in the month of September, I threw up my hands and resigned myself to my fate. I got my flu shot, I wash my hands like crazy, and I open the windows like a mad woman. But there is only so much I can do.
What I learned in August
Right now, it’s tempting to turn off the radio, television, and internet news alerts altogether and hide under a rock. I get it! In 2018, there is no nuance, civil discourse, or middle ground, it seems. Yet I also believe it is important to stay informed.
Like most millennials, I consume the news digitally (We’ve actually never had a paper newspaper subscription!). I’ve chosen to subscribe to several email newsletters that arrive in my inbox every weekday.
Move your body
Taking a page from Emily P. Freeman's What We Learned, a chance to pause to reflect on the past season before we move ahead into the future. The sharings are silly, serious, sacred, and just plain useful.
1. Scalp care is as important as hair care.
I jumped on the dry shampoo train this past year, and I have loved the time it has saved me blow drying my hair. What I haven't loved? The feeling of buildup of dry shampoo near my scalp. I began to question if dry shampoo was for me. I sweat a lot in my exercises classes, and I thought I was prone to dandruff, which typically means you need to wash more often, not less.
Summer fun list
Have you ever watched babies or toddlers dance? Isn't it the best? Sometimes I hear the music that inspires my eleven-month-old to shake his head back and forth, and sometimes he finds a beat that only he can hear. But he loves to move his body. He has his go-to moves right now: bouncing across the room on his butt, shaking--never nodding--his head rapidly (why is no so much more fun than yes?), clapping his hands together, pedaling his heels backward in Downward Dog.
Summer officially started last week, and school has only been out for two weeks, but why does it feel like the season is already halfway over? I will admit that I have been dreading this season. Having two little kids, no consistent childcare, and no lighter workload makes summer extra stressful rather than leisure-filled. Add the fact that my husband will be away for half of the time and I have decided to approach Summer 2018 with low expectations. Still, I am hoping to operate slightly above survival mode. In the spirit of setting realistic goals, and taking a page out of Laura Vanderkam's book, here is my brief and simple summer fun list.
Most of us have experienced imposter syndrome at some point: How did they let me into this college--I can't really be smart enough to go here! Did they know what they were doing when they hired me? They're letting me take this child home...by myself?
I don't know about you, but identities have always taken some time to "click" with me. I felt like I was playing house for the first couple of years of my marriage and serving as longtime round-the-clock babysitter to my children. Even those identities I always "had"--Christian, woman, southerner--hit me suddenly. I may have grown up in the church, but there was a moment when I realized, "Huh. Not everyone would share these same stories and faith."